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Don’t Keep This Secret!

As many of us know October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month but you may not be aware that it is also National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Domestic abuse is often one of those things that we keep silent about because of a stigma that goes along with it.

Some just accept it as a normal part of life while others refuse to admit what is happening. It can happen to anyone regardless of race, gender, or social status. It can also happen in a variety of ways that we may not even be aware of.

Here is one story:

High School Sweethearts

There was a young girl who married her high school sweetheart. They were happily married for a while. Then after the second child came along things began to change.

She didn’t know what was going on but somehow she was always made to feel like it was her fault. His words were sharper than any knife and would cut her deeply time and time again.

She thought it was just a phase and things would get better. She never dreamed that this was abuse. Her childhood memories were full of awful images of what she defined as abuse.

Then one day it happened. He hit her. She packed a bag, grabbed the kids, and left. He came to find her and apologized. Things seemed better for a while.

Then when she was pregnant with their third child he came home drunk which had become the usual habit. He slapped her for no reason and belittled her to no end. She could do nothing but cry.

This happened over and over again. She felt helpless. She felt worthless. She felt alone. She didn’t know where she had went wrong or what she had done to deserve this.

The abuse continued and she began to think about leaving. She didn’t want to ‘give up’ on their marriage but she didn’t want to live like this for the rest of her life either.

Finally one day she had enough and once again she packed a bag, grabbed the kids, and she left with the traces of dignity she had left and plenty of bruises from their last interaction.

She had nowhere to go but a shelter. It wasn’t what she wanted but she knew she had to protect her little ones so she went.

Eventually they got a place of their own and started a new life with the help of others. Life was hard but it was so much better.

And another:

A Modern Day Fairytale

She was a single mom of four young kids. Two handsome boys and two beautiful girls that she was so proud of.

She had worked hard to get them where they were and she knew there was a lot of hard work to come. She was working nights and going to school by day to make a better future for her little family.

Then one day she met a man who swept her off her feet. At first she hadn’t thought much of his flirting but he grew on her and she finally accepted his dinner invitation.

He took her out and treated her to one of the nicest dinners she had ever had. He made her feel special in a way no one ever had before.

They had several more dates like this and then he met her family. They didn’t immediately hit it off but she shrugged off the uncomfortable feeling.

After several months he proposed to her and she gladly accepted. They made plans and shopped for a new house where they could blend their two families into one. A modern day family tale.

The signs of his need for complete control were there but it didn’t rear its head until after she had already committed to moving. One of the first signs was when she went to check on the progress of their new house and found that the color scheme had been completely changed without her knowing.

He had insisted on putting the house in his name because of issues from his first wife so she didn’t say anything about the change. It was his house. There more ‘little issues’ that came up as the house was finished.

She also had the opportunity to witness some of his temper when the workers had not done a task to his liking. She dismissed this as ‘new home stress’ and he justified it by saying he ‘just wanted it done right for the amount of money he was paying’.

When the house was almost completed she had contacted the dealer to set up the furniture delivery. She had carefully picked out and planned each room. It had taken many hours to look through the catalogs and she had made many compromises with her fiancé before the final choices were made.

She was shocked to learn that her fiancé had canceled the entire order and had taken that money from the budget to pay for a new garage. Once again he justified it and promised to get new furniture once they had moved in.

Moving in was becoming a bit worrisome but she had already given her notice and invested a lot of time, money, and energy into getting their new home ready. Plus the kids were so excited to have a brand new home and they didn’t mind not having new furniture. She thought things would get better once they got settled in.

Sadly things didn’t improve much at all. He would come home angry the majority of the time. He would drink and she suspected that he was possibly using drugs as his mother had questioned her about his behavior.

The house was never clean enough. Meals were never good enough. He always found something to complain about. Nothing was ever right in his eyes and he made sure she knew it. He began accusing her of having affairs even though there was no way she ever had time to even think of that.

Eventually the emotional and mental abuse turned into physical and he hit her. He threw her around like a rag doll and broke several things in the process. She called 911 and he was taken away.

She got a restraining order and moved out with the kids. He constantly called her despite the restraining order. His family begged her to drop the charges but she wouldn’t.

He was ordered to go to counseling and complete some anger management classes which he did, mostly. He apologized and seemed to have put the abusive tendencies away.

The kids begged to go back home as he had bought them some four wheelers, dirt bikes, and other toys. Eventually she gave in and returned. Things were good for a while until they weren’t.

There were some occasional ‘accidents’ like when he pulled her off the bed and broke her tailbone. He insisted that he hadn’t meant to hurt her but he had said that before too. There was another time when he gave her a ‘Chinese mud bath’ which resulted in a fractured spine but that was an accident as well.

A couple of years later things got worse almost overnight. He became obsessed with the notion that she was having an affair. He had convinced his family of this too and she was forced to endure an endless barrage of nasty phone calls from his mother.

During one of his episodes he broke the patio door by throwing a glass at it. During another he tore the bedroom door off its hinges.

Another time they had traveled out of state with a group of his coworkers. Everyone went to an amusement park to spend the day. He got upset about something he thought he overheard and he belittled her in front of all these people she barely knew and he walked away.

She felt embarrassed but tried to hold back the tears. She thought she would give him a bit of time to cool off and someone else offered to go talk to him. They returned and said they couldn’t find him.

He had left her and the kids at an amusement park miles and miles from home. To make matters even worse was that he had taken the back pack with all of the money and snacks.

A couple of his friends tried to cheer her up and encouraged her to try to enjoy the rest of the day with the kids and she did her best. They even bought dinner for the kids and offered to buy hers but she couldn’t eat. She was afraid of what would happen when they got back to the hotel or that he may have went back home and left them stranded.

He was at the hotel and that night was a tense one as were the weeks that followed.

She eventually convinced him to go to marriage counseling. He was convinced that the counselor was a quack after the first session but she continued to go.

Things continued to escalate as time went on. She felt as though she was always walking on egg shells at home. She would let the kids stay with friends whenever he was home.

The counselor told her she needed to leave but she held onto the hope that she would find the man she thought she had fallen in love with.

Then one night she awoke to find him watching her sleep. The look in his eyes terrified her. He got up and left without a word.

Then a few days later she found a box of ammunition for a gun she knew nothing about. When she mentioned this to the counselor he advised her to leave as quickly as possible.

She began making secret plans to leave and she hid the guns and ammunition to be safe. One night he came home extremely late. She was sleeping and suddenly she found herself being pulled out of bed and thrown against the wall. She hit her head on a picture and broke the glass.

The room was dark and she couldn’t see who was there. Then she felt her night gown being ripped off. She fought and ran through the house and somehow managed to grab a phone and dial 911.

The mystery attacker took the phone and hung up. The 911 operator called back but he refused to give her the phone. She realized who the mystery man was… it was her husband. The kids woke up and she told them to lock their doors.

The next few moments felt like an eternity and she felt terrified. She had never seen him so wild eyed and crazy.

She managed to get away again and barricaded herself in a bathroom with her back against the door and feet pushing on the tub with all her might as he kicked and pushed on the door. She thought about trying to escape out of the bathroom window but she didn’t dare leave the house while her kids were still in their rooms.

After a bit he calmed down and tried to convince her to come out and talk to him. She refused and then police arrived. He begged her to tell them it was all a misunderstanding but she wouldn’t.

The marks on her arms, the broken glass, and the turn clothes were evidence of the ‘misunderstanding ‘. Not too mention the path of destruction left behind from when she was running from her unknown attacker which made the nightmare all the more real.

She knew what she needed to do and with the help of friends and family she moved far away from him and his family.

Scary isn’t it?

You may think this couldn’t happen to you or anyone you know. I thought so too but those stories are my stories.

There are many more stories from those two relationships that could be told but I won’t do that today.

I grew up in a home where domestic violence was a ‘normal’ thing. I didn’t like it but I didn’t know that it wasn’t the way life was supposed to be. I just knew I didn’t want that when I grew up.

Unfortunately many children grow up witnessing this in their homes. It seems to be an increasing problem. I was in denial when it happened to me the first time.

The second time I was probably in denial a bit but I felt ashamed because I had ‘let it happen’ again. I wanted to believe he would change and I didn’t want to feel like a failure at marriage again.

In the end I paid dearly and I hate the fact that my kids witnessed some of it. I was able to hide a lot of it but they knew I wasn’t as happy as I had once been.

The stress of the whole ordeal took a toll on my health as well. I was a complete mess during the latter part of my second relationship.

Some people have said it was my fault. Others have said I was stupid for thinking either one of them would change. Maybe I’m a sucker for lost causes and I try to see the good in others while overlooking the bad

Maybe they are right in some ways but I know that I didn’t do anything to deserve to be treated the way I was treated. My kids didn’t deserve to be exposed to that either so when I had enough I found the strength to get out of those situations.

What is the saying? Insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result… I think that’s how it goes. Eventually I can to my senses and made the changes needed just like I know you can too, if you are in a bad situation.

It’s been over 8 years since I left that second relationship and I haven’t looked back. God has truly blessed me and given me more than I ever expected.

Looking back I know I should have left sooner but I can’t change that now. Those experiences made me the person I am today. They made stronger and have helped me find an inner strength I never I had.

Today I can honestly say I am in a much better place than I have ever been. I am surrounded by friends and family who truly love and support me. I have a beautiful family and a wonderful partner.

Don’t keep it a secret, get help now!

If you are experiencing anything in your relationship that you feel isn’t right I beg you to talk to someone. If you feel like you may be an abuser then talk to someone and get some help.

With the holidays just around the corner stress seems to build up. Many times we see an increase in domestic violence reports around the holidays. Please don’t be one of the statistics.

If you want to talk to someone now you call 1-866-331-9474 to speak with a trained peer advocate. You can also text “loveis” to 22522.

If you would like to show your support for National Domestic Violence Month you can wear a purple ribbon or make a donation to a local agency. I plan to wear my purple this Friday in honor of this cause.

Many times the shelters are in need of hygiene items, cleaning supplies, and other necessities. One of our clubs made Mother’s Day baskets for a local women’s shelter earlier this year. You may want to contact a shelter and ask how you can help.

Some of the things I greatly appreciated when I was ready to leave the shelter was the baskets of food that a family had donated with lots of kid friendly items. There was another basket of basic household supplies like toilet paper, paper towels, toiletries, and cleaning supplies.

Someone also donated coloring books, crayons, a few stuffed animals, and games. These helped to keep our minds occupied during some of our darker days and helped the kids transition. We had not been able to bring a lot with us as I could only fit so much in my car. When I went back later he had given away most of our belongings.

One generous couple had even paid my security deposit on our new apartment so I would have little money left in my pocket when we moved in. This came in handy as there were many things that we needed. I have tried to pay it forward as I can and I pray that God has blessed them for their kindness.

Note:

Please know that I haven’t shared these parts of my story for sympathy rather as examples so that others can know that I’ve been there and I know how completely and utterly helpless it can make you feel. I also hope that by sharing it can show someone else that there is hope and with help they can make a change in the lives.

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Weekend Warrior Project: Old Window Transformation

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We have been working a lot around this little house just trying to make it feel more like ‘HOME’. It’s been a little over a year since we moved and we are finally starting to really get settled. I feel like I can finally relax and put my feet, at least every now and then. This past weekend was not one of those times.

When I was doing my major cleaning this past summer I had thought of the idea of doing a faux stained glass window in the kitchen but haven’t found the time to do that yet. I did however decide to do something with this one BIG window that we have in the main room. It is so dirty on the outside that it has been driving me completely BONKERS!

I’m sure some of you are thinking that I should just get out there and clean it and trust me I would if I could. This window is over the pond and I have no access to it of any kind so cleaning it is IMPOSSIBLE right now. The inside has been cleaned and cleaned but it hasn’t helped a lot as the window is OLD and has seen a lot.

Before we moved in the window had been boarded up for many years, I guess someone else didn’t like the dirty view either. After we built the sleeping loft and got rid of the bukbed that had been in front of the window we couldn’t ignore how dirty it was. Then comes the fact that I moved the dining table in front of the window and we now had to see it a few times a day. Mr. Awesome didn’t really like the window and wanted to cover it up again but I like light, lots of light, and I wanted to have the window clear so that it would help to illuminate this rather dark little cabin.  Continue reading Weekend Warrior Project: Old Window Transformation

Learn How To Plan Your Homeschool In 15 Minutes Or Less Per Week!

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As a Momma of 9 I am constantly looking out for my kids. I worry about them, like all moms do, and try to be there for them any way I can. I am also constantly looking for new ways to encourage them and keep their curiosity and eagerness to learn alive.

They really do love learning however sometimes they get bored with what we are learning or the way I am teaching it. I admit I get bored sometimes too but I love homeschooling because I am learning right along with my kids. Seeing the look on their face when they finally ‘get’ something is priceless and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

On the other hand I often feel frustrated and tired because things don’t go as planned. We also experience A LOT of interruptions in our day to day life and that can cause some frustrations too as I feel like we just aren’t GETTING ENOUGH DONE in our day.

Not to mention how exasperating it can be when you plan a lesson or activity only to have your kids totally HATE IT! Hours and hours down the drain on what you thought was going to be such a FUN LEARNING EXPERIENCE.

Planning and learning can happen on its own, and the results are mind-blowing!

Continue reading Learn How To Plan Your Homeschool In 15 Minutes Or Less Per Week!

Have You Grabbed This Amazon Count Down Deal Yet?

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Did you know that I have a couple of cook books on Amazon? Both of them are full of family favorite recipes that we enjoy eating again and again. I had planned on having another one out last year but with the move and the hurricane that just didn’t happen.

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Starting today you can get 31+ Breakfast Ideas And Recipes ebook for just $0.99! (That’s a 67% savings!) Yes, less than a dollar and you can have some really great breakfast ideas on your tablet, phone, laptop, or other device. These will come in so handy when the back to school morning chaos hits!

It is available as a paperback as well, if you prefer to have a ‘hard copy’ at home. This deal only lasts until August 6, 2018 and then the price will increase to $1.99 and then back to regular price after August 10, 2018.

What are you waiting for? Grab yours today.

While on Amazon you can also check out my other cook book, Kirby’s Korner Blog: Top 40+ Family Favorite Recipes ebook or paperback, by clicking either of these links.

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Weekend Wrap Up: June 9, 2018

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So this week has been really good. We’ve made a lot of progress as far as finally getting the house organized and getting our routines simplified. I feel like I can finally breathe. It has never taken me so long to get unpacked and organized after a move before. Just a word of caution to anyone trying to downsize…. it’s probably gonna be a lot harder than what you think!

We have had quite an exciting week that has been packed full of all kinds of planned and unplanned surprises. Keep reading for a brief summary of what we’ve been up to. Continue reading Weekend Wrap Up: June 9, 2018

Monday Madness, Motivation, and Multitasking Mishaps

Hey there!

How’s your day going? I slept in a bit late even though I had all intentions of getting up early. That didn’t quite happen as I did wake up several times but couldn’t manage to pull myself out of bed.

I am still very sore from our Father’s Day weekend, cleaning out the closet, and from yesterday. We did get up a bit early yesterday as Mr. Awesome had a surprise planned. I fixed some yummy pancakes for breakfast on our new griddle and after eating we loaded up in our van. (I am including a few links to previous posts as well as some affiliate/referral links that help to support our blog.)

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I can never get everyone in the pictures. And if they are they won’t look the same way.

Our first stop was the movie theater. We got to see the new Jurassic Movie, ‘Jurassic World’, and it was pretty good. The kids, especially the boys, love these movies and I think we own all of them.

After the movie we went to meet a friend of his who had a couple of younger kids. They had a pool as well so our kids got to practice swimming some more and are getting much better at it. They want to swim without life vests but I’m not comfortable with that yet. (Sorry/Not Sorry kiddos. I’m planning a water safety post soon. By the way have I shown you the cute, but modest, little swimsuits I found for the girls? If not, check them out here and here.)

We also had a small cookout and it was very nice to meet some new people and spend the day with them. The kids were exhausted when we left and so was I. I was actually exhausted before but did my best to hang in there as everyone was having so much fun.

So that’s my excuse(s) for not getting up early today but I will try my best tomorrow. It shouldn’t be too hard to get up earlier than I did today … lol.

After getting dressed I decided I should go throw some clothes in the wash. I wanted t get my clothes washed as well as the wet stuff from yesterday. Getting up late isn’t going to ruin my day and I am determined to get this house sorted this week.

So I headed to the kitchen to get a glass of water and my Vitality Vitamins. (Yesterday was my first day taking them so I can’t really say how they work for me yet.) Mid gulp something outside the window catches my eye. I knew what I thought I saw but I thought maybe my imagination was a bit overworked.

It was kinda one of those Tweety Bird moments when he says:

Only it wasn’t a puddy tat I tawt I taw. I turned my head away and then looked back again for another peek. Sure enough my eyes were correct, it was a snake. I tried to get a picture of him climbing the outhouse but it was too blurry.

Ewww…. not the best way to start my morning. Granted it was just a black snake and they are usually a good snake to have around. Unless you are deathly terrified of snakes and he almost gives you a heart attack like he has done with the neighbor. I admit I have been terrified of snakes before and am not very fond of them but I will try to tolerate ‘good snakes’.

Nice, deep breath before I head outside to see where he was headed. Of course by this time Mr. Black Snake was headed down the path towards me. (Hehe… this sounds like a line from one of the kids readers ‘The Adventures of Mr Toad’, maybe?)

My puddy tat came to my rescue and walked right beside me the whole way. When Mr. Black Snake saw me and puddy tat he turned and went the other way. He is now somewhere under the outhouse. Out of sight out of mind? Maybe. This kind of reminds me of a story I just told Mr. Awesome about the ‘pet’ black snake we had when I was young. He was much bigger and lived in the outhouse and he scared me more than once.

I did get the laundry carried out and started. So I came back to the house to get breakfast ready and have a cup of coffee. I also realized that in my distractedness I had forgotten to carry out the laundry supplies that I had set in the kitchen over the weekend.

My first mishap came when I tried to make my coffee while pouring cereal for the kids. I set the mug under the spout and waited for it to fill. Then while waiting I went about pouring cereal in bowls and milk into cups.

When I went back to grab my coffee all I found was a mug of hot water. I hadn’t loaded a coffee pod. I did get it right the second time around though.

When it was finished I added a couple squirts of this French Vanilla Syrup I found at Sam’s club. (If you use this Sam’s referral link we both get a little something.)

Ahhhh…. much better. So, cup of coffee I hand I decided to write this quick post which has turned out to not be as quick as I thought it would be. (Another mishap was thinking that I had posted this earlier and then realizing that I hadn’t.)

Some of the kiddos are super grouchy and I’ve had to set the phone down several times to deal with issues and help find a missing shirt. Plus the boys keep forgetting that their clothes are now in the closet. I’m thinking I will go back to hanging up their outfits so they can just pick out something to wear instead of digging through all of the clothes every morning.

Then Ms. Isabella had misplaced her hair tie and was wreaking havoc on everyone instead of just asking for a new one. (Everyone thinks she is so sweet and innocent but she can be a little terror when the mood hits.) We were able to find a suitable replacement pretty quickly as the bathroom is still fairly well organized.

Hair bows, shirts, and clothes found they were able to sit down for breakfast. I enjoyed tried to enjoy the few minutes of quiet and tried to think of what all I need to do today. This list includes:

  • Grocery shopping
  • Make the grocery list (preferably before the shopping)
  • Make tea (after the grocery shopping as we need more sugar)
  • Weekly Home blessing
  • Daily chores
  • Hang up the boys’ clothes
  • Get outfits ready for tonight
  • Club Newsletters, emails, and updates

As usual the sight of me sitting down means that chaos will start. (This also happens frequently when I enter the bathroom or make a phone call.) Someone got more cereal than someone else, someone has more milk than someone else, someone is wearing someone else’s shirt, or someone looked at someone wrong, etc, etc… you get the point. The joys of motherhood, right?

Needless to say I feel a headache coming on so we are going to need to find a way to change some attitudes, real quick.

Getting back to my plans. The FlyLady missions for the week are in the Living Room and include:

  • Sofa Diving
  • Decluttering/Dusting Knick Knacks
  • Dusting door jambs, pictures, moldings, corners, etc.
  • Cleaning baseboards
  • Cleaning under and behind the furniture
  • Hot Spot Fire Drill!

If you read my Kleaning Missions in the Living Room you know that we tackled a lot of these areas last month. This means it shouldn’t take us long at all to knock these out which will leave us more time to focus on other areas that need our attention.

I am determined to get these homeschool cabinets organized as I have a ton of empty boxes sitting in the living room. We also have more and more new items for next year coming in on a daily basis. I am keeping these in a small tote in my bedroom so they don’t get misplaced or accidentally given away. Be sure to keep following along as I will be revealing our new curriculum soon and I might have a sneak peek later this week!

I also plan to get back in the family closet and go through my dresses and maybe… please not that I’m saying maybe… go through my petticoats again. I would really like to make enough room so I can have all of my clothes, maybe even my shoes?, in the closet as there isn’t room in the bedroom for all of them.

Note: We didn’t put William’s clothes in the family closet because he doesn’t like other people messing with his stuff. I do have his dress clothes in there but I get them out for him when he needs them as he likes to mess with everything. He is getting better about learning to respect boundaries but this is a work in progress. So, if a family closet is on your list just remember to take into account everyone’s needs. This has really helped out a lot since the weekend though. No more running from room to room looking for clothes or looking under the bed for shoes. It is going to take us a little getting used to though.

We also really need to get to that top shelf in the closet and the bookcase that I took out of the closet as it is in the living room right now. The bookcase is holding the stuff that didn’t go back in the closet. The top shelf is just a cluttered mess but I am resisting the urge to tear everything out because I don’t know where to put it.

After seeing how we rearranged Mr. Awesome is also looking into getting some actual doors for the closet…. whoo hoo! Maybe I can talk him into a set of doors for the bedroom too? I think the folding doors will work better in our small space and I’ve got several ideas pinned. Here I go getting sidetracked as doors are not my main focus … my mind seems to be as cluttered and disorganized as my house right now.

The family closet and the homeschool cabinets are both big projects but I’d love to have them finished this week. We have a couple of more big projects on the schedule. There is on in particular that I’m hoping we can start on one of them within the next couple of weeks. This one will help out a lot as I’ve been having a really hard time dealing with the clutter here lately. Some of the clutter has come from areas that I’ve been working on but some of it has been brought in recently by guess who? I’ll let you guess on that one.

While I have been taking things we don’t want/need to donate we do have some stuff that just needs or is waiting for a new home. However Mr. Awesome keeps bringing in more projects like the corn hole boards and we don’t have a place to put the overflow, yet. As a result we now have a pile of stuff sitting in front of the computer cabinet and half a bag of corn sitting by the front door.

I could possibly put some of it in my storage area on the porch but after seeing Mr. Black Snake so close I don’t think I want to put anything else out there. I really don’t think Mr. Awesome realizes how much I dislike clutter! I know he doesn’t see it as clutter but if it’s piled up and doesn’t have a home then it’s clutter in my eyes. I don’t think I’m OCD but maybe I am because this is overwhelming at times.

I do know that once this is all said and done it will all be worth the frustration, craziness, and insanity that we are currently dealing with. This little house will function so much better for everyone living here. This is my motivation for getting this done.

Well, there goes my timer for the wash. I better run out and grab the clothes now. While I’m headed that way I’ll grab the laundry stuff that needs to go out too… now where did I put my shoes?

It’s Not Just Another Night

I wrote this several months ago even though it only posted today. This was written before the recent loss of famous people like Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. It is so important for us to take the time to check on one another and to make sure those around us know just how important they are to us.

In today’s day and age it is sometimes confusing as to how we can communicate our feelings without crossing or blurring relationship lines. I don’t have a ‘one size fits all’ answer for that as every relationship and every individual are different and require a different approach. But when it all boils down to it just do what feels most comfortable to you. This post was an example of how I felt comfortable in sharing this.

I have a friend that doesn’t seem to know just how important he has been to me. I was talking to him a while back and wished him a ‘Good Night’ like I normally do. He replied that ‘It is just another night’. That bothered me for some reason.

Yes, maybe it was just another night, but it was special in its own way. It was another end of a day, a day to add to the time we have been friends.

When we met I was going through a really rough time. He didn’t know that at the time but I was really sad and kind of lost in a way. I had thought God was leading me down one path only to have the path bulldozed, without warning, in front of me with no detour ahead. I was at a dead end in some ways.

We just happened to meet and I really didn’t think we’d ever become friends. God has way of changing our thinking and making things happen.

We would make plans to go out or do something. The plans never happened. We would try again only to have something else come up.

Then I’d think to myself that it was probably for the best. I mean his ‘wyd’s’ were driving me nuts anyways… lol. (I had to get someone to translate a lot of his abbreviations for me to start with.)

Then he’d text me and everything would be OK. We talked a lot. Sometimes he would send me a text when I least expected it and it would totally catch me off guard. One time he sent me an early morning text, which was very out of character for him, that I credit for saving my family and me from a potential house fire.

Over the months I learned a lot about him. I began to see him differently. When it seemed like we were getting close he would just pull away and I didn’t understand.

There would be days and even weeks we didn’t talk at all. Then I would start to think about how much I enjoyed our friendship. I tried to tell him but sometimes it just didn’t come out right.

We went for a bit without speaking or texting. I just assumed he had met someone and I continued on with my normal activities. After all I wanted him to be happy and he had said he wanted the same for me.

Then I met someone. When we talked again and I gave him my good news he didn’t react the way I’d expected. I’d hurt his feelings without meaning too. I really didn’t think we would ever talk again. But I was wrong again.

Our paths kept crossing in crazy and completely unexpected ways. We start texting and catching up and it feels like it did. We can talk about most anything and he can cheer me up with the craziest things.

So Pepe,

I don’t know what plans God has in store for you but I know they will be great! I know he sees everything you do and he sees everything you don’t. He sees the little things you do as well as the big ones. He is working on something very special for you, I can feel it!

I want you to know that it’s not just another night or just another day. Today is a special day because you are a special, one of a kind friend! Don’t shortchange yourself because you are a great friend! Anyone who can call you a friend is very blessed and that includes myself!

If you read this I want to thank you for being my friend through the good and the bad! I’m always here if you need to talk, no matter if it’s about the weather or the one who got away (girl or fish).

Your friend,

Susie

Do you have a friend like this? Maybe someone who you haven’t kept in touch and would like to let them know that you still think about them? Go ahead and let them know how much they mean to you. It might just make their day a little extra special.

The Gospel Centered Mom

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As many of you know I am always looking for devotionals and such for my morning quiet time. I need something that will inspire, motivate, and encourage me on my daily path. This book caught my eye when I was browsing a while back and I knew I just had to read it. It’s taken me a bit longer to get through it than I had planned but it was so well worth the time and I will definitely be keeping this on my bookshelf to read again. Continue reading The Gospel Centered Mom

10 Things To Do When It Feels Like Your World Is Falling Apart

I know we’ve all been there a time or two in our lives, if you haven’t then you should still keep reading so you can be prepared for when it does eventually happen to you. We get comfortable in our lives and everything seems like it is going along so well. We have a good job and our lives are stable. Our home life seems pretty good too and everyone seems happy for the most part. Then it happens. It turns our lives upside down and tears our world apart, at least that’s the way it feels at the moment. Continue reading 10 Things To Do When It Feels Like Your World Is Falling Apart

My 1st Stitch Fix Box

Hey you guys! You’ve got to try this! @StitchFix delivers stylist-picked clothes to you w/ free shipping & returns. I am so excited as I just received my first Stitch Fix box and I am so in love. These were clothes that I definitely wouldn’t have picked out for myself but I love the way they look and they are all so comfortable. This was a Christmas gift I got for myself.

It was so easy to get it, I signed in and filled out my style profile. Then my stylist, Jenaha, picked out my outfits which were then sent right to my house for me to try on and decide what I wanted to keep. I decided to keep it all but if I hadn’t they sent a postage paid envelope to mail back the unwanted items.

You can take a peek at what all I got in this little video and if you want to give them a try you can use this link here. (Yes, I do get a little kickback if you order from this link here.)

 

It’s so nice to do something for myself every now and then. The fact that they offer Free Shipping and Returns is also a plus.

Happy New Year’s!

#stitchfix #fashion

31 Proverbs To Light Your Path

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As many of you know I am always looking for devotionals and such for my morning quiet time. I need something that will inspire, motivate, and encourage me on my daily path. When I need encouragement I often go to the book of Proverbs to find an uplifting verse.

Continue reading 31 Proverbs To Light Your Path

T is for Tuesday, Twirling, Tea, and Turtles

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Boy did I have a busy day! I had to get up early to run some errands but I could’ve laid in bed a bit longer. I’ve been super exhausted lately… not sure exactly why but maybe the holidays and houseful of kids have something to do with it.

After I got back from town and took care of the fraud issue I mentioned in ‘Almost a Victim of Online Fraud’ it was time to work on the house. Our house is small and we jokingly call it the ‘Little House on The Pond’. Continue reading T is for Tuesday, Twirling, Tea, and Turtles