So a few days ago I posted about my goals for 2019. I’m not waiting until the New Year to get started because there is no time like NOW to get started on these goals. You don’t have to wait either and you can follow along with me on my journey to finding a simpler, happier, and better functioning lifestyle here in our little cabin.
It’s so easy to get discouraged with LIFE at times, I know because I’ve felt myself falling into a HUGE pit of discouragement lately. It feels like I just keep hitting walls in so many areas of LIFE and I just don’t know how to get past them. The one thing I do know is the GOD is in control and if there is something in my way HE can help me overcome it.
I also know that a lot of times our failures come from inside of ourselves. We get unhappy with things and want to change them but sometimes the change must come from us first. This can be hard to do and sometimes it can be hard to admit that we aren’t PERFECT.
Over the holidays so many people are posting pictures of their families. Many of these pictures seem to show PERFECT homes and families but behind the scenes can be a different story. In reality LIFE is MESSY in so many ways. I can tell you that my LIFE is MESSY for sure with so many kids and special needs not to mention that we HOMESCHOOL and LIVE in a TINY CABIN. Boy can it get MESSY. Don’t let those pictures get you feeling depressed or down. You can follow along with me, a normal (well, somewhat normal depending on you definition of normal) Momma, as I tackle some of this crazy mess we call LIFE.
The first step towards my goals is going to be to stop wishing for things to be different and to take ACTION. Now I know how silly this is because sometimes I find myself wishing I could be a millionaire for a day but I really can’t make that happen. I am going to make a list of things I wish were different and you can too.
Just grab a piece of paper or an old notebook and start writing. Here’s my list:
These are the top 10 things I really want to work on and your list might be longer or shorter than mine and that’s OK. I know I can always add things to the list and/or cross them off when I feel I have accomplished the goal.
So now what to do with this list? Well, I am going to work on a plan to achieve these goals and turn them into reality. How? It’s all about the plan and remembering that Rome wasn’t built in a day or that we can’t eat an elephant whole but we can eat it one bite at a time…
What’s your Rome? What’s your elephant? My list is what I need to work on and the first thing on my list will be ME. Sounds a little selfish, huh?
This past year is evidence that I have neglected myself. I’ve been sick more than I’ve been well and even on the verge of being hospitalized at least once or twice. I didn’t feel well during Christmas and was again on the brink of being taken to the hospital. Something has to change. As a Momma, I always feel like I need to be taking care of others and while this is true I also need to remember that I need to take care of myself because there is no-one else to do that.
I am also taking a bit of time to reflect on how far we’ve come since we moved here and how far my kids have come since I adopted them. When I look back on that I can see a lot of progress even though I know there is still a lot of work to be done. I also know that in order to stay strong for all that is to come I really need to FOCUS on myself a bit more than I have been.
So here’s what my plan of action looks like right now:
My list of 10 things got quite a bit longer as I made up this plan of action. The thing is that once I get started some of these things will interact with other items on my list and help improve my successes… but if I do nothing then things are not going to change by themselves.
The first thing on my list, like I said earlier, is going to be ME. Selfish or not I’ve got to start somewhere and I am always putting everyone and everything else first which hasn’t been working out very well here lately. So now I am going to try things a little bit differently. I’m not taking anything away from anyone or anything to take care of myself just making a little more time for my needs.
If I can start getting up earlier again and make it a habit then that will give me an extra hour in the mornings to do my devotions, exercise, or whatever else I may need to take care of. Then if I also start reinforcing Quiet Time after lunch that will give me another hour or so to take care of things while the kids read quietly or take a nap.
Also if I schedule some times into my week for webinars or online learning sessions I can make plans for the kids to work on something independently while I am working on my project. One thing that I will be doing, that isn’t on the list, is going through some of the groups and such I belong to and leaving the ones that don’t interest me anymore. This will free up time as far as reading and answering group emails and messages go.
Change has to start somewhere so why not with me? Sometimes seeing a change in others can motivate someone else to make positive changes in themselves because we’ve all heard that actions speak louder than words, right?
I’m tired and worn out from the way things have been the past month or so around here and I need change. The holidays have been way more stressful than I had thought they would be to so I really need some peace and simplicity too. Instead of griping, complaining, nagging or throwing a pity party I’m gonna take action and work on changing what I can right now. Wanna join me?
Just remember that we need to take time with changes so they can become habits and start small… don’t bite off more of the elephant than you can chew at one time!
What are your top goals for 2019? Let me know in the comments below.