I wrote this several months ago even though it only posted today. This was written before the recent loss of famous people like Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. It is so important for us to take the time to check on one another and to make sure those around us know just how important they are to us.
In today’s day and age it is sometimes confusing as to how we can communicate our feelings without crossing or blurring relationship lines. I don’t have a ‘one size fits all’ answer for that as every relationship and every individual are different and require a different approach. But when it all boils down to it just do what feels most comfortable to you. This post was an example of how I felt comfortable in sharing this.
I have a friend that doesn’t seem to know just how important he has been to me. I was talking to him a while back and wished him a ‘Good Night’ like I normally do. He replied that ‘It is just another night’. That bothered me for some reason.
Yes, maybe it was just another night, but it was special in its own way. It was another end of a day, a day to add to the time we have been friends.
When we met I was going through a really rough time. He didn’t know that at the time but I was really sad and kind of lost in a way. I had thought God was leading me down one path only to have the path bulldozed, without warning, in front of me with no detour ahead. I was at a dead end in some ways.
We just happened to meet and I really didn’t think we’d ever become friends. God has way of changing our thinking and making things happen.
We would make plans to go out or do something. The plans never happened. We would try again only to have something else come up.
Then I’d think to myself that it was probably for the best. I mean his ‘wyd’s’ were driving me nuts anyways… lol. (I had to get someone to translate a lot of his abbreviations for me to start with.)
Then he’d text me and everything would be OK. We talked a lot. Sometimes he would send me a text when I least expected it and it would totally catch me off guard. One time he sent me an early morning text, which was very out of character for him, that I credit for saving my family and me from a potential house fire.
Over the months I learned a lot about him. I began to see him differently. When it seemed like we were getting close he would just pull away and I didn’t understand.
There would be days and even weeks we didn’t talk at all. Then I would start to think about how much I enjoyed our friendship. I tried to tell him but sometimes it just didn’t come out right.
We went for a bit without speaking or texting. I just assumed he had met someone and I continued on with my normal activities. After all I wanted him to be happy and he had said he wanted the same for me.
Then I met someone. When we talked again and I gave him my good news he didn’t react the way I’d expected. I’d hurt his feelings without meaning too. I really didn’t think we would ever talk again. But I was wrong again.
Our paths kept crossing in crazy and completely unexpected ways. We start texting and catching up and it feels like it did. We can talk about most anything and he can cheer me up with the craziest things.
I don’t know what plans God has in store for you but I know they will be great! I know he sees everything you do and he sees everything you don’t. He sees the little things you do as well as the big ones. He is working on something very special for you, I can feel it!
I want you to know that it’s not just another night or just another day. Today is a special day because you are a special, one of a kind friend! Don’t shortchange yourself because you are a great friend! Anyone who can call you a friend is very blessed and that includes myself!
If you read this I want to thank you for being my friend through the good and the bad! I’m always here if you need to talk, no matter if it’s about the weather or the one who got away (girl or fish).
Do you have a friend like this? Maybe someone who you haven’t kept in touch and would like to let them know that you still think about them? Go ahead and let them know how much they mean to you. It might just make their day a little extra special.