Dealing with gossip and rumors…
If you have read some of my previous posts then you may understand this quote. I have been dealing with a lot of gossip and rumors for a while now. Some of the rumors have some truth to it and some of them are just outright lying.
I will admit to anything I’ve done. I won’t lie and try to cover it up. In fact, maybe sometimes I am too honest about what I have and have not done. I’ve always asked people to come to me if they have questions about anything in my past. Well, unfortunately, there are some people who don’t do that and would rather try to publicly humiliate me.
The past few weeks have been really bad for me as someone spread a lot of rumors about a night out that I had with my best friend. We went to a bar, yes a bar, and we had a good time. By ‘a good time’ I mean we enjoyed the music and we talked. We talked a lot about everything. Our marriages, our children, our pasts, our regrets, and the opportunities that may come our way in our futures.
We did not go ‘bar-hopping’ as people have claimed. Nor did we go to pick up anyone, in fact, we didn’t even talk to any males that were there. We were simply there to get away from some of the stresses at home and to talk. Yes, I know there are probably other places we could’ve gone but we did enjoy the music there the time we had been before.
Gasp! Yes, I just admitted that we went to the bar another time before this one. Again we did not go bar hopping or to pick anyone up. We ate some dinner together and enjoyed the music. (Yes, we did have a couple of drinks.)
That time we did talk to a few members of the opposite sex only because they had come to talk to us. There were no long or inappropriate conversations with anyone else and we did not dance with anyone. We didn’t even accept any drink offers, not even from the bouncer.
I didn’t feel the need to post about these outings as they were outings with my best friend. I didn’t realize that these outings would become such a big deal to so many other people. It wasn’t that I was hiding the fact that we went out, as anyone who mentioned it to me knows, but I never felt that it was something that needed to be publicized. We don’t make it a habit to go out to bars and I never imagined that this would’ve been such a big mess.
Don’t be afraid…
We are oftentimes so afraid to admit things we have done for fear of what others might say or do when they find out. I have come to learn that in this day and age there is almost nothing that is done in secret and everything will be found out in one way or another. The thing is that God already knows what we did or didn’t do.
When I have done something wrong He will convict me just as He does for everyone else. We are the ones who will decide whether to repent or not and to turn from whatever it is that we are being convicted of. It is not our place to judge one another for what they have done or haven’t done.
And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? – Matthew 7:3
So I apologize if I’ve misled anyone to think I was perfect or that I am not human and I don’t make mistakes. I am flesh and blood and make mistakes just like everyone else. I try to learn from those mistakes and I also try not to repeat them.
If you have something that you have been judged for then take it to God. Ask for His wisdom and guidance about the matter. Remember that it is best, to be honest about it in the beginning. If you try to hide it then others will just try to hold it over your head. They may even start making personal attacks on you and your character. Please remember that nothing you have done can separate you from God’s love.