Its been a little while since I’ve written anything. I’ve had lots to think about and even more to do. One thing that has been on my mind a lot is what I would like to find in a relationship. Surprisingly enough one thing I desire is to be cherished. I think most of us want this too but few of us have ever felt this.
What does it even mean?
cher·ishˈCHeriSH/verb past tense: cherished; past participle: cherished
protect and care for (someone) lovingly.” he cared for me beyond measure and cherished me in his heart” synonyms: adore, hold dear, love, dote on, be devoted to, revere, esteem, admire; More
- hold (something) dear.”I cherish the letters she wrote”synonyms: treasure, prize, value highly, hold dear”I cherish her letters”
- keep (a hope or ambition) in one’s mind.” he had long cherished a secret fantasy about his future” synonyms: harbor, entertain, possess, hold (on to), cling to, keep in one’s mind, foster, nurture“they cherished dreams of glory”
To cherish someone means we make another person our priority relationship. We can show them we cherish them by providing them with a loving, safe, secure environment. A place where they would never doubt our love, our care, and our commitment to them and our relationship.
I want my partner to love me, of course. But I also want him to protect me and to care for me, to adore me, to hold me close to his heart and to keep me in his thoughts and prayers.
I want him to encourage me and to be a breath of fresh air when I get overwhelmed and feel like I am smothering under my responsibilities.
Of course, I would show him the same in return but I think so many couples lack this one very important aspect of relationships. It is not just saying the words ‘I love you’ but showing them that makes a person feel cherished.
We can show our partners that we cherish them by sacrificing things for their behalf. It may be giving them the last bit of cake or missing out on a guys/girls night out to spend time with them.
It is in the little things we do or should do on a daily basis like touching them, listening to them, encouraging them, complimenting on something they did, and showing them respect.
Its also in the way we act towards them in public and the things we say about them to others. We also need to spend time alone with our partners to reconnect on a regular basis.
It is in the little gifts we give, just because, or the things we do without being asked.
If we all just took a few minutes every day to look for ways to show one another how much we love each other then we would all feel cherished.